So we're going to keep this short and sweet today but I wanted to share a small slice of serious pie with you.
Lately I've been stumbling across a few videos from (mostly female) vloggers claiming that they are "bad women" because of various reasons.
Let me clarify this a bit because I realize this could sound like something sexual and that's not what any of us mean at all.
What they are saying is that they do not fit into the "female stereotype" and apparently this makes them a bad example of the female gender and this honestly breaks my heart just a bit.
"I never have perfect nails," one said.
Another cited loving video games (which I don't think should ever be considered a gender-specific quality) as to why she made a bad woman.
I occasionally see this confusion of "rejecting gender stereotypes" with "rejecting gender" in men but society tends to put this weird stress on not admitting when you aren't "manly".
Yet there is also this bizarre prestige in admitting you aren't a "girly girl". Like being a part of that gender is wrong or undesirable.
Both genders get kind of screwed over in this weird battle for identity vs your gender identity...
So I'm going to state this as stupidly plain as I can.
First, there is more to gender than the two cookie-cutter ideas we have carved out.
Second--and most importantly--the only thing that makes you one gender or the other--is it's what you identify as.
And there is no wrong or right answer.
You can be a man who likes decorating--this does not make you less of a man.
You can be a woman who loves sports or only shaves her legs once every five months. You are still a woman.
You could even be born as one gender but identify as the other--what you were born as does not change who you are now.
You're you. You're something to be proud of.
Unless you're an asshole. Then you may want to work on being a bit kinder to those around you.
But seriously. Kick stereotypes in the teeth and don't let them ever feel like less than what you are.